Book – Group – How One Therapist and a Circle of Strangers Saved My Life

Wow, if you add one book to your reading list for 2021 do make it this! I read this in two nights, and just couldn’t put it down.

Now I always have been a ferocious reader, even when I was little.. I guess that helps, when pursuing a career in law.  It’s safe to say though that I do have to remind myself to read fiction and non-fiction that isn’t for work/career purposes. 

This was perfect for that, I was gripped from page 1 and just desperate to find out how things progressed.  If I am honest, part of my wanted to jump to the end and read that but I refrained. 

The challenges and ‘prescriptions’ Christie is given in this book, really make you think about your own life and how you would fair doing those things, or what could you do to challenge yourself or get out of a rut.  Something I feel maybe we all need after a year of lockdown and our worlds being turned upside down.

I felt very drawn to various people and scenarios in the book, and could resonate with many of the situations, but even those that didn’t feel quite so close to home – I felt drawn to follow and see through, and was willing them on in their everyday battles!

Links to the book below if you fancy it… I don’t want to give too much away, just do add it to your reading list.  And if you need any further encouragement to check it out, then Christie was a lawyer! 

Happy Reading!

Rebecca x 

Event – Law Students and Social Media

On Monday 29th March at 3pm – I am going live on Zoom to talk all things social media!

Sharing some of my top tips on how to use social media to grow your network, have meaningful conversations and also stay up to date on all things legal news, tech etc.

Plus the floor is yours to ask me anything social media and studying law… no question is off limits!

It is completely free – and don’t worry it is being recorded, so if you can’t join live, no problem! Just sign up using the link below, and after the event you will be sent the recording.

See you on Monday!

Rebecca x

2021… The year I move to the countryside

Yes… that is correct, I have the left the bright lights of London and Hertfordshire, for a little village near Woodstock in Oxfordshire. 

I am so excited. Don’t get me wrong, I love London and cities and exploring and I can work there still (winning on the 45 minute direct train into London!), but I also like the countryside or being near the sea.

If the last year or so has taught me anything, then it is to follow your heart a little more (as cliché as that sounds), and this area has been top of my list for such a long time! 

I have moved slightly further away from my family – but still within an hour or two, so it isn’t so bad and when lockdown is lifted and the world is more normal, I am so excited to explore where I am living with them!

I can’t wait to share more with you, and there will no doubt be countless tweets and photos as I explore, and visit Blenheim Palace!

Rebecca x

Turning 30!

So I know typically this blog is primarily law and a bit of work related travel and experiences thrown in.  I also always promise to be honest on there and on social media, but I, like many others do have a private life, which I choose to keep relatively private.

However, I thought I would write a post as I turn 30 in April.

Aside from the fact it is likely I will be spending my 30th in lockdown (here is to all of us who have had 2 lockdown birthdays!), I am much more of a ‘I prefer other people’s birthdays’ kind of girl.

I am acutely aware though that the world we live in seems to expect certain things to occur by certain ages/stages in life.  So here I am, highlighting that actually it’s okay to not have things when the social norm expects you to have them.  That it is okay to have plans change throughout your life, and to not have the life you expected when you were little… it doesn’t mean they won’t happen, or that you have failed – you are just doing things in your own time and your own way. 

When I was very little, if you had asked me where I would be turning 30, my answer was easy! Married, a couple of children, a barrister and hopefully teaching law students as well. 

Realistically as my 30th birthday fast approaches, I don’t have any of those things.  I do teach students, but not in the same way. 

Would I be a liar if I said it didn’t bother me in the slightest? Absolutely! However, if the last year has taught me anything, it is that health and happiness are far more important.  

I grew up valuing family and all that came with it, but never before has that been more important to me than the last year.

I have incredible people, family, opportunities in my life – and I wouldn’t change that. 

I have also re-evaluated what I want with my life, how I achieve the things I set out to do, and yes, being a Barrister is still one of them. However, other things don’t sit so highly on the list anymore, or I have realised that I can do some of those things, without anyone else – or in a way that benefits someone else, giving some a home that needs one etc. 

I also look back and realise that some of the setbacks I had, opened up incredible opportunities.  I have been fortunate to work all over the world, something that would never have happened, had I gone to uni straight away and not worked and studied. 

My little law blog that you are reading this on, is over 10 years old – and wow, this would never have been a thing either. 

I have the most amazing group of people in my life, quality beats quantity every day of the week – and I am forever grateful that I get to do what I love, be a massive legal geek, drink copious amounts of hot chocolate, binge on crime dramas and documentaries and ultimately live a life where I am free to do those things and so much more.

So if you are approaching any big birthdays, or just struggling with the expectations and social norms attached to ages and where people should be – remember that they don’t mean anything! 

You are always right where you need to be, with challenges and opportunities ahead of you and a bank of people willing you on and being your cheerleaders.  Just know, that even when opportunities don’t go your way – it doesn’t mean a no forever, and take solace in the fact you were brave enough to try, and that means you can try again. 

Rebecca x 

3 Top Tips For Webinars

Well what a 9 months this has been, I don’t think any of us really knew back in March how long this was going to go on for, but I am guessing not quite this long.

With a substantial increase in webinars and online seminars and even conferences, I thought I would share just 3 simple tips to make them go more smoothly! 

Webinars as we know were around pre-Covid, however, there has been such an influx of them, whether that be Chambers, Law Firms, Academics, speaking to other lawyers or their clients.  Discussing the impact of Covid, or avoiding Covid completely and just delivering sessions on important topics. 

So how can you make your webinar, whether as the host or a panel member, guest speaker, go as smoothly as possible.

Tip 1 – Camera

Now no one is expecting you to have a Legally Blonde film or BBC News studio set up in your home (other films and news channels are available!) but a clean/clear camera view is expected.  Even if it is the one on your laptop or Mac, set yourself up so it is at a good angle and that you have a semi-respectable background.  Again, we aren’t expecting studio levels of backgrounds and backdrops but something appropriate.  We all can remember the furore over what books people had on their bookshelves, don’t we? 

This also links to lighting, make sure you have some light on you/near you – it really helps!

Also we don’t want to see up your nose, your ceiling light fixtures as you have positioned the camera wrong, or potentially that slightly inappropriate piece of art work behind you etc.  

Check all of this before you go live preferably as a group, failing that do a mock call with another panel member or alternatively call a colleague or family friend.  Ideally no ipad/iphone cameras! 

Tip 2 – No reading off script (or even worse off slides!)

If I had a £1 for everytime I sat in a webinar or lecture and thought… just give me the slides I can read them myself!  It is incredibly boring and gives the impression you as the presenter aren’t overly interested or educated on the subject.  By all means have notes and things like that – key points on slides, whatever you need to prepare and have that substance to hand, BUT… do not read off the slides that everyone is being presented with. 

Tip 3 – Audio

It has been nearly a year now, and as these platforms were used long before March 2020 – there really is no excuse to not have your headphones connected or be ready to unmute etc.  I am so over hearing ‘Martin, you’re on mute’… (insert other name where applicable!).  Have a practice run if you feel nervous/uncomfortable etc.  Also make sure people can hear you, minimise other potential distractions online – closing unnecessary internet browsers/tabs etc.  Anything that can slow your system down and impact wifi and the general output of your presentation – no one wants the audio or video crashing or you sounding like a robot.

One thing I would say is that everyone is far more tolerant of background noise, interferences, the dog barking when the door goes, children popping in – and I love that – it makes you human! However, if you need to (and are able to) put a sign on the door or whatever it is to help you get in the zone and make for a smoother (more seamless) presentation.

Good luck!