The Late Company – this needs to be in schools!

The Late Company, is a production that I feel very strongly about when I say, this needs to be in schools!

You might remember that last weekend I went to see the play, The Late Company at Trafalgar Theatre/Studios.

I was totally blown away by both the production and the cast/story.  It was phenomenal and so different to anything else I had seen on stage.

5 people, minimal props, a dining room table and they hardly left the stage.

It was on a topic relevant to everyone in today’s world – social media.  More than that though it was about bullying  in real life and online, it was about parents being unsure about what social media is/does.  It was about suicide.  It was also about how different people react in different ways to comments made about them.  Some people can laugh them off, other people it really cuts hard and they struggle so much with being bullied and the cruel comments being said about them.

The Late Company also highlighted that sometimes bullies do not realise the potential ramifications of their actions.  It touched on, people making comments just for a laugh, but never quite realising how that is being taken by others. It also made clear that sometimes these comments being made aren’t intentionally hurtful and also that at times they aren’t overly rude – but the impact it has on the individual receiving them can still be damaging.

In today’s world, everything (sadly) happens online. 

You all know that I am a massive advocate of social media.  I use it everyday, I encourage people to be on social media.  I regularly recommend law students to be on twitter and other social media platforms, as it is a great way of engaging with the legal sector, lawyers, legal news, events, law schools, law students etc.

I also spend my time writing strategies and training lawyers and law firms (even law schools) on how to engage better online – so I get that we live in a world where “being online” is how we live now, it is just such a shame that students (and adults) are unable to escape from bullying because of it as well!

The Late Company needs to be shown in schools.

This theatre production needs to be shown in secondary schools.  It needs to tour the UK.  Due to the minimal props and space provided it could easily be done in school halls.  Students need to watch this, as it might make them think twice about some of the things they say and do, in person and online.  Equally, it might encourage some students to come forward and talk about being bullied, as opposed to

The Late Company needs to be shown to parents.

I do feel very strongly that this play needs to be shown to parents.  It would be great to see schools putting again for the parents in the evenings. It would be great to see schools putting this production on for students during the day and then parents in the evening, or even allowing students to sit with their parents and watch it.

The Late Company – a must watch in 2017!

Sadly this production is coming to an end, but it really does need to be brought to schools.  The impact this production had on me and the others in the room was huge.  People were crying in parts, the whole production really hit home just how volatile a place the internet can be, it also reminded me just how hard it is for people to seek help or tell someone how they feel.  It reminded me that we live in a world where everyday there are new developments to social media platforms, and new platfroms and apps being delivered – and very often parents are unaware of some of these, or what they do.

It reminded me that whilst bullying has happened for years and years, we now live in a world where school students are subjected to it 24/7.  They can’t leave school at the end of the day and the bullying stops, it now carries on in their pockets, with their phones, tablets, laptops and desktops.   We have students putting up questions about themselves on apps and websites, waiting for responses from people they do and don’t know.  I feel very strongly about all of this because I was bullied as a child in primary school, but I could, to some extent, ignore it when I got in the car and went home.  Today that just doesn’t happen.  It is constant, and no wonder it leads to students self-harming, or contemplating suicide.  It is awful to think that someone is being tormented so much and subjected to such a horrible experience whether they are at home or school, and the only way they think this will stop, is by killing themselves.

The reviews for The Late Company are amazing, and I couldn’t recommend it enough – it really hit home on so many topics and issues! The Independent wrote a great piece about it here.  I do hope that if you have time (and you can get tickets) that you go and see this production before it closes.  You can purchase tickets for this through ATG here.

Rebecca x

Short hair… Don’t care!

So I never thought I would be writing a blog post titled Short hair… Don’t care! on here.

As you all know a lot of my content is law related, whether my own career, study tips, legal news, events, tips for lawyers and law firms growing their online presence etc.  So why a blog post called Short hair… Don’t care!?  Well, after a little incident on the train the other night, I need to have a little rant.

On Friday night I was on the tube in London and there was a mum and her little boy and girl. The little girl looked at me, then to her mum, and said “that girl has really cool hair”, to which her mum replied, “You don’t want to look like that, she looks like a lesbian. Only girls who are lesbians have short hair, boys don’t ever fancy girls with short hair”.

Thanks for making all of these comments loud enough that I could hear you.  It took all the willpower I had in me to not correct you.  I am not an argumentative person and I am not someone who would ever speak out of turn, or make a scene, however, your comments are completely unnecessary.

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To the lady on the train, for the record, and not that it is any of your business, but I am not a lesbian.  I have short hair because I want to have short hair, and I like how it looks.  Oh, and I have been in relationships, so clearly guys do like girls with short hair.  Yes, not every girl has super short hair like me, but I don’t care.  If anything I like looking a little bit different.

I have always had short hair, various forms of short hair.  From a bob, to a super short pixie cut, I change it up as often as I want to.  I have a long fringe at times, then like recently, I cut the long fringe off.  I also have it undercut.  It doesn’t make me a boy and it also doesn’t make me a lesbian.

Last time I checked my hair hasn’t impacted on my education, my career, my relationships, my family or friends etc.  I have a law degree, I run a blog, I speak at universities and to rooms full of law students, I speak at conferences and events all over the world, I have worked in law firms whilst studying to become a barrister, oh and my family and friends don’t seem to be bothered by my short hair.

Also, and this might shock you, but there are lesbians with long hair.  So assuming someone’s sexuality based on their hair cut is properly a bad idea.

For the record, whilst some guys might not like girls with short hair, some do.  My short hair doesn’t make me any less of a girl.  It should go without saying that different people like their partners (whatever sexuality) for various reasons, everyone has their own type.

One final thing, lady on the train – whilst we are on the subject of me having short hair, I don’t care what you or anyone else thinks of it.  Yes I have written this post, but not because your comments upset or hurt me, but because we live in the 21st century and assumptions like the one you made are completely unwarranted and unnecessary.  So as the title suggests, Short hair… Don’t care!

Plus, and whilst I would never ever tell anyone how to raise their children, you are potentially raising children that think it okay to judge someone and assume someone’s sexuality based on their hair style.  You might also deter your own child when she is an adult from having short hair for fear of “looking like a lesbian”.  So please stop.

As a grown up with short hair, I have never really experienced the “oh, she’s definitely a lesbian’ thing, thankfully! Yes I did a lot at school, but that was over 10 years ago, and whilst it was not nice or warranted then, I just got on with it.  However, I am now 26 and I don’t need you telling other people on a train what you believe my sexuality to be, straight or gay.  It isn’t any of your business, and quite frankly it never will be.

Rebecca x

 

 

YouTube Videos Round Up

YouTube Videos Round Up

Why have I written a YouTube videos round up post?

Well… I am really enjoying filming some new content and videos for my YouTube channel and if you read my blog you will know I recently uploaded a post and video titled ‘Where have I been?’.  This blog and video discussed my plans for my YouTube channel going forward and what content I will be sharing.  The content will be for law students and lawyers, so keep an eye out.

In the meantime I thought I would do a quick round up of some of the videos I have uploaded so far.  Every link will open in a new tab, so you can watch the video with ease and then come back to this post.

What is Lawyer In The Making?

When I first gave me blog a design overhaul (quite a few years ago), I decided I wanted a short video explaining what you could expect from my blog.  I still love and use this video (even if it looks a little old now) plus I was determined to make sure the butterfly made it in to the video.

My Q&A Video

I pulled together a few of the frequently asked questions I receive on a regular basis, and answered them in a YouTube video.  This video is what sparked further videos being created, seeing as you liked this one so much, and gave me such lovely feedback.   I cover frequently asked questions about my career, my blog and why I blog!

My new promo video

This is my new promo video, it contains me answering a couple of the frequently asked questions that I covered in my Q&A video.  It is great to use at events or just to share with people if they want a quick overview of what this blog is about!

Does LinkedIn Still Work?

I believe it still has a massive role to play in terms of online engagement for lawyers and law students.   See my thoughts here.

25 Random Facts About Me

This video helps you get to know me (the girl behind the blog) a little bit better.  I always try and keep my content personal but professional.  I keep my private life private, but always try and be approachable and friendly in the content I share, as well as honest.  This video gives you a little insight into the things I love, my upbringing, the sorts of holidays I love and what I get up to in my spare time.  As well as my love for Costa Hot Chocolate and crime/law related box-sets.

Stressing About Advocacy?

Public speaking does not always come naturally to us.  Getting up and speaking in front of your class, or even in an advocacy task can be daunting.  Here are 4 basic tips to help calm those nerves and make you feel more confident.

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Get in the Lawyer Mindset | Attend Legal Events

If you follow me on any of my social media platforms (or read my blog regularly) then you will know I am a massive advocate of law students attending legal events.  Whether that is a seminar on a legal topic of interest, a public lecture, a conference – it is really important you try as law students attend some.  Watch more on this here.

How do you follow up with people after an event?

In this video I share some of my top tips for following up with people you have met at events.  Whether they told you to email them, or send across a CV etc.  here are my tips for ensuring you do it well!

Law Students | How to use Twitter like a pro

If you have been following me for a while, then you will know that Twitter is my go to platform for all things law.  It is the one I recommend law students and lawyers use, whether for research, news or engagement.  I pulled together some of my top tips for law students, on how to use twitter like a pro – check it out here.  Oh and I guess I can shamelessly plug my own twitter here, so give me a follow!

5 Top Tips For Using Twitter (Law Firms)

This video contains 5 very simple tips to help you use twitter better.  The content isn’t just applicable to law firms though, they are useful for tips for lawyers and law students.

5 Further Tips For Using Twitter 

In the interests of you, I didn’t want to make a stupidly long video (no one has time to watch that right?) so here are 5 further twitter tips!

My 2017 Law School Mission

You will see from my tweets that I find it really frustrating when law schools aren’t utilising social media or their websites properly.  It is great way to engage better with their current students, other law schools and potential students.  Check out my 2017 law School mission here.

Are you having problems at University?

Studying law can at times be challenging and you shouldn’t have to suffer alone.  Equally if you are having problems at university or at home and these things are impacting on your studies then you need to speak to someone.  Speaking to someone at your university can help get the problem resolved a lot quicker, even if it is just some additional support, a deadline extension or an acknowledgement that the fact the heating is never on will be looked into! Watch this video here.

I hope you enjoying checking out my YouTube Videos Round Up, and don’t forget to subscribe to my YouTube channel whilst you are on one of my videos. Alternatively click here and then subscribe.  It just means you never miss an new video.

Should I create another YouTube Videos Round Up post in six months time?

Rebecca x

p.s. Don’t forget you can learn more about how to use social media on my 7 day online social media school, which only costs £70.  You can work through it in your own time, it covers the basics, but some more advanced bits as well – helping you to feel more confident using social media in the legal sector.

YouTube | Where have I been?

Where have I been?

So, where have I been? Here, there and everywhere it feels like.  But, I’m not talking about destinations in this post, I have been so quiet over on YouTube and I wanted to let you know that’s all about to change.

I filmed this quick video to explain where I have been, and what you can expect going forward!

What can you expect on my Lawyer In The Making YouTube channel?

If you watch my video you will see that I do want to keep the content tailored to both audiences.  So content for law students, but also content for lawyers and those working in the legal profession.  I am hoping that some videos will sit nicely between the two, but I am also very aware that not all the content will do that.

What can you do?

So of course I would love it if you subscribe to my YouTube channel, it just means that you will never miss a video!  You can subscribe by going onto my YouTube and hitting the subscribe button.  Equally, likes and comments are always appreciated on my videos.  Plus if you like what you see on my YouTube channel, then share a link from it to social media or with people you think will like it.

More important than that though, I would love to know what you want me to film and share.  I have a big list of topics and things I want to talk about and share, and this list I have generated myself and from conversations an discussions with people in person and online – but, I want to know what you want!

So make sure that you send me messages on social media, that you comment on my videos or that you email me with what you want.

I want to be producing content that is of interest to you, but also a benefit – so what do you want to see or learn about?

Rebecca x

Opinion – Am I A Victim?

Am I a victim? On paper, and by definition, yes I am.  Do I think I am one though? No.

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Yet when I look at my life and the way I react to and feel in certain situations, then that incident, 13 years ago this month, has massively impacted on my life.

13 years ago this month I was sexually assaulted on a train, heading home from school  on a Friday night.  I was sat on the train with my little sister, she had just started Year 7 and we had just returned to school after the summer holiday that week.  We occupied a set of seats on the old style metropolitan train.  Across the aisle on the smaller pair of seats was another girl from our school who had just started year 7.

The train journey itself lasted 10 minutes maximum. We got off on the 4th stop.  However, this particular Friday, the doors stayed open at Rayners Lane for a little longer than normal, which wasn’t out of the ordinary.  The doors closed, then re-opened, as they re-opened a group of boys/guys/men jumped on the train.  I would be lying to say I didn’t feel relieved when they walked by my little sister and I.  Plus we were now on our way to our stop, so nothing bad was going to happen in the short time frame!

However, they soon turned around and came and sat amongst us.  I remember someone sitting next to me on each side, one by my little sister, and open opposite the girl from school I didn’t know.  A couple of them were standing in the walkway.

Time seemed to stop still, I was sexually assaulted on that short train journey home, and was appalled that the adults stood in the middle section with the pole bit, who could clearly see us didn’t step in to help.  I was adamant that they were in no circumstances going to touch my sister or the other girl.  As it approached our stop, I made sure the girl got off with us, and that evening my dad was picking us up from the station and I made her drop the girl off where she had planned to meet her mum.  I would never have lived with myself if I had left her on the train with them.

What followed then was an evening of trying to remember and write down everything, police visits, a trip to the hospital, buying a new school blazer and skirt, over the next few weeks various trips to the police station,and for a little while an undercover police officer walking near us on the way to school and the train journey.

So am I victim?

I guess I am, but I don’t spend my time thinking about what happened, and this is the first time I have ever written about it, plus hardly anyone knows this about me.

Yet, everyday I am impacted by what happened that day.  I am so anxious on public transport, I would rather stand than sit down, I am super anxious if there are relatively empty carriages, I used to dread coming home later on at night if drunk people were on the train, I hate carparks day or night, I hate getting taxis/cabs, I don’t like walking around in the dark (and sometimes even the day).  I check around my car before getting into it, and then have to reach around the back of my seat just to make sure I am safe.  I triple check my front door is locked.  I am constantly scanning around when I am out and about, trying to remember what people near me are wearing, just incase something happens.  I don’t even think about doing that, it just happens.

Please don’t think I am crazy!

However, if you follow my blog or social media, you will know that I still do most of those things.  In DC I spent my life jumping in and out of cabs getting to conference venues and then after parties.  I get the train into London frequently (I used to do it everyday for work), I get the train home after I have seen friends, I even sit down sometimes on the train, I leave my car in carparks and return to my car etc. I sat and watched the sunset by myself down by Boston harbour and walked back to my hotel every night.

I refuse to not do these things even if they make me ridiculously anxious and uncomfortable.  Sometimes though my nerves do get the better of me.  I walk around anxious and paranoid more often than not.  I constantly think that the people around me might be potential attackers, and it is awful to think that about complete strangers, who 99.9% of the time are just innocently going about their day.

Sometimes it does all get a little bit much, and I had full blown anxiety attacks when I arrived in DC in 2016, to the point where I considered spending thousands of pounds on a flight home!

I know that everyone is relatively cautious when it comes to some of these things, and personal safety is paramount.  I do sometimes wonder whether I would have been like this anyways, even if I hadn’t been assaulted? Would I have always been a little bit extra paranoid? Maybe, maybe not.  I guess I will never know the answer to that.

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One thing I do know is that my family and the police helped me massively through that period of my life.  At the age of 13 having to do police interviews and be subject to some pretty harsh questioning (by one particular women) was tough and knowing that people had my back made such a difference.   I also know that by reporting them, they maybe/hopefully wouldn’t do it again!

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Rebecca x