So I never thought I would be writing a blog post titled Short hair… Don’t care! on here.
As you all know a lot of my content is law related, whether my own career, study tips, legal news, events, tips for lawyers and law firms growing their online presence etc. So why a blog post called Short hair… Don’t care!? Well, after a little incident on the train the other night, I need to have a little rant.
On Friday night I was on the tube in London and there was a mum and her little boy and girl. The little girl looked at me, then to her mum, and said “that girl has really cool hair”, to which her mum replied, “You don’t want to look like that, she looks like a lesbian. Only girls who are lesbians have short hair, boys don’t ever fancy girls with short hair”.
Thanks for making all of these comments loud enough that I could hear you. It took all the willpower I had in me to not correct you. I am not an argumentative person and I am not someone who would ever speak out of turn, or make a scene, however, your comments are completely unnecessary.
To the lady on the train, for the record, and not that it is any of your business, but I am not a lesbian. I have short hair because I want to have short hair, and I like how it looks. Oh, and I have been in relationships, so clearly guys do like girls with short hair. Yes, not every girl has super short hair like me, but I don’t care. If anything I like looking a little bit different.
I have always had short hair, various forms of short hair. From a bob, to a super short pixie cut, I change it up as often as I want to. I have a long fringe at times, then like recently, I cut the long fringe off. I also have it undercut. It doesn’t make me a boy and it also doesn’t make me a lesbian.
Last time I checked my hair hasn’t impacted on my education, my career, my relationships, my family or friends etc. I have a law degree, I run a blog, I speak at universities and to rooms full of law students, I speak at conferences and events all over the world, I have worked in law firms whilst studying to become a barrister, oh and my family and friends don’t seem to be bothered by my short hair.
Also, and this might shock you, but there are lesbians with long hair. So assuming someone’s sexuality based on their hair cut is properly a bad idea.
For the record, whilst some guys might not like girls with short hair, some do. My short hair doesn’t make me any less of a girl. It should go without saying that different people like their partners (whatever sexuality) for various reasons, everyone has their own type.
One final thing, lady on the train – whilst we are on the subject of me having short hair, I don’t care what you or anyone else thinks of it. Yes I have written this post, but not because your comments upset or hurt me, but because we live in the 21st century and assumptions like the one you made are completely unwarranted and unnecessary. So as the title suggests, Short hair… Don’t care!
Plus, and whilst I would never ever tell anyone how to raise their children, you are potentially raising children that think it okay to judge someone and assume someone’s sexuality based on their hair style. You might also deter your own child when she is an adult from having short hair for fear of “looking like a lesbian”. So please stop.
As a grown up with short hair, I have never really experienced the “oh, she’s definitely a lesbian’ thing, thankfully! Yes I did a lot at school, but that was over 10 years ago, and whilst it was not nice or warranted then, I just got on with it. However, I am now 26 and I don’t need you telling other people on a train what you believe my sexuality to be, straight or gay. It isn’t any of your business, and quite frankly it never will be.